Social media has become a part of our everyday existence. What’s the first thing most of us do when we get up in the morning? We roll over, hopefully, give thanks to God and then grab our cell phone even before we hit the loo.
Girl, I don’t know about you … but that pretty much sums up my routine. I’m improving daily but I have definitely been guilty of this.
Social Media Good, Bad, Or Ugly, It Is …What It Is.
Don’t get me wrong, staying connected in a digitally influenced world has its perks. Having the world at your finger tips … who wouldn’t want that? The ability to connect with just about anyone, anywhere in the world and be privy to the daily doing, eating and where they’re hanging out. The internet has changed the game for sure. Oh and let us not forget about having the opportunity to expose the world to your business and getting a few new clients because of it, that’s never a bad thing.
We’ve all become witness to the lives of people we know personally and don’t know at all. Some of whom, if not for social media we would have zero chance of ever crossing paths with.
There’s More To This Whole Social Media Thing Than Meets The Eye
Like all things, there are two sides. The unfortunate side of social media is the false sense of connection with those we know and don’t know. This constant addiction or FOMO (fear of missing out) as the call it, not only impacts our purpose and productivity but gives us unlimited opportunities to compare ourselves to others who are only really showing you the best of all things that have to do with their lives.
Whether your social media browsing is done consciously or unconsciously, seeing the so called best of what everybody’s doing every single day is bound to get you in some way or the other. Especially if you happen to not be in one of the best of places in your life.
Let me just say this … All that glitters in rarely ever gold, most of the time it’s just glitter.
I don’t know what it is about us people, but the innate propensity to compare in us can sometimes overwhelm common logic and distort our intuition.
Logic says if you look at something or someone and it evokes negative emotions regardless of what the reason might be, that it’s probably a good idea to stop looking. Right?
But yet we seem to ignore intuition and find ourselves spending more time than we would care to admit comparing ourselves to others. Younger, older, those with more money, people who travel, people in different parts of the world, and often times people who are in a completely different life chapter then our own.
Having the best displays of others’ lives available to us 24/7, come with an underlying pressure to want to beat ourselves up about who we are not, where we are not and what we are not doing.
We’ve lost touch with reasonable expectations of ourselves, the concept of taking our time to do things right and the importance of forging our own individual paths.
I make it sound like social media is the source of all things evil, don’t I (inserts a big laugh and grins as I continue to write). but beside all that is wrong with the way we sometimes consume social media, social media isn’t all bad, in fact, there are very rewarding outcomes when consumed in healthy proportions, or when it’s being used strategically for your business.
The issues arise when consuming social media brings about unhealthy comparative emotions.
Excuse my blunt advice but If there is someone, anyone that makes you feel some-typa-way … It is time for you to Unfollow and Focus with a quickness
Even if you don’t know why their posts are making you feel the way you do, the fact remains that they are, so please stop torturing yourself immediately.
If being privy to another’s life or daily shares is doing more harm than it is good, you need to say goodbye for now … it doesn’t have to be forever but right now it may be in your best interest.
The great thing about unfollowing people ( well on Facebook anyway ) is that they don’t even know you’ve unfollowed them and you can start following them again at any time when you’re ready if you ever feel like you want to.
Once you unfollow those that evoke any emotions that are less than positive, your vibration will rise and more space will be created for you to focus on the people and things that truly inspire you.
I’ve had to unfollow a few people at a time in my life that wasn’t so great, doing so made all the difference in the world. It gave me the time I needed to focus on myself, my goals, my business and where I wanted to be. I was able to quite all the mental noise over indulging in social media can create so that I could hear from myself and focus on others who needed to hear from me.
At the end of the day, you need to do what is healthy for YOU. And if there are people in your circle of influence or otherwise that inspire anything other than the greatness within, just unfollow them and allow your focus to shift towards the positive things that actually inspire you to get on with being the best version of you, you can be.
If any of this resonates with you at all, let me know in the comments below. I would love to hear from you!